What is Unconditional Love?
Unconditional Love began in early childhood, where we saw that when we did all the right things when we were clean, quiet, obedient and otherwise “good” people “loved” us. They smiled at us and spoke in gentle tones. But we also saw that when we were “bad,” all those signs of “love” instantly vanished. In short, we were taught by consistent experience that love was conditional, that we had to buy “love” from the people around us with our words and behavior.
But, if there is any absolute when it comes to love, it is that human love is limited. It is not what it was originally created to be, even in the best of people and circumstances, except when Jesus Himself is loving in and through a person.
Humanistic psychologists
Alfred Adler and Abraham Maslow considered these "unconditional" to be basic human needs, essential to a person's sense of well-being. They taught that people need to be loved and accepted unconditionally ,without any conditions of performance. Thus, their followers also teach and encourage all people to love and accept themselves unconditionally.
It is especially unfortunate, then, that most of us have no idea what unconditional love really is, and we prove our ignorance with our horrifying divorce rate, the incidence of alcohol and drug addiction in our country, the violence in our schools, and our overflowing jails.
So what’s wrong with conditional love?
We see it everywhere we look, so what could be wrong with it? Imagine that every time you pay me fifty dollars, I tell you I love you. We could do that all day, but at the end of the day would you feel loved? No, because you’d know that I “loved” you only because you paid me. We simply can’t feel fulfilled by love we pay for. We can feel loved only when it is freely, unconditionally given to us. The instant we do anything at all to win the approval or respect of other people with what we say, what we do, how we look we are paying for the attention and affection we receive, and we can’t feel genuinely loved.
Unconditional Love : loving a person without any conditions just like If’s, somehow, however, but and etc. We can only say that it is unconditional love through the love of God that He gave his own life for us without something in return.
Neschelle Gay M. Roble
